Stephanie Foo’s What My Bones Know- A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma, we follow Stephanie on her journey to heal herself through a variety of mental health techniques to find what works for her. While successful on paper, Stephanie knows somethings wrong and one day her therapist of 10+ years finally tells her that she has Complex PTSD, different than regular PTSD (which seems to be much better studied) because it is based on continual or repeated trauma vs a one-time trauma. Child abuse/neglect fits right into that and Stephanie puts her childhood out there. She also tells of her journey through many therapists, and teachers, and meditation, and yoga to try to heal her anxiety, depression, anger, etc.
This is a raw, honest look at how someone can fall through so many systems due to looking ok. She dives deep into some of the racism that allowed that to happen, and the cultural expectations of first generation Americans. She talks about it from her perspective and culture, but from a different culture but also a first generation America, I could connect to many aspects of needing to do well, keep the grades up, etc.
This was a tough read, but so funny and well written. I was either crying or laughing. It also shows the power of friendship and making your own family.
Read July 2023